My Goals…even the embarrassing ones

One of my previous goals of getting my Table Rock time up and down to 35 minutes.

I’m an avid goal setter. It’s actually fairly ridiculous the magnitude of goal setting I partake in. There’s something so liberating about crossing off a once dreamed upon idea. A reward that only the dedicated experience.  Looking back on lists of crossed off goals really helps put things into perspective. You were busier bettering your life than you thought you were.

I’m also a big believer in accountability and publicly talking about your goals. There’s something about not wanting to be the boaster that flounders in laziness, the wantrepreneur that never creates their empire, or the person eating potato chips off their tummy as they watch The Biggest Loser.

This is why I decided to publicly share my goals (even the embarrassing ones).  I also pride myself on setting goals so large, that I slightly blush when I talk about them. But, there isn’t an ounce of doubt in my mind that I won’t achieve them all.

Outlandish Goals	Deadline
1. Speak at a TED Event	apply for by 12/31/2016
2. Be on the Olympia stage competing	attempt to by 12/31/18
3. Build my business that teaches young adults success skills to the level that it makes me more than I make today.	12/31/2014
4. Be in a magazine. (one for fitness, one for business)	12/31/2015
5. Write a book	7/15/2014
6. Read 12 non-fiction books per year.	10/1/2014

Be True to Yourself

“If you are being true to yourself and it isn’t enough for the people around you, change the people around you.”

I promise this will not be a rant post, although it may appear that way at times. But, I have recently came to an abrupt realization that I need to be true to myself.

I constantly get told that the way I ask questions, the way I say things, my views, etc. are too opinionated and come across as “bitchy.” I have tried to find books on how to cater to people’s personalities, without realizing a fundamental truth…..that’s who I am!!  I have long viewed my assertiveness as a character flaw instead of appreciating that that is what makes me unique.

I used to view being true to yourself as sunshine and rainbows, with everyone being kind to one another and not speaking your opinion if it hurts other people’s feeling. Seriously, I did and I know I’m not alone. People think that if you are confident or “bitchy,” you should change your personality. It’s not very nice to be that way. Stop it! This is a serious double standard.

Always remember, being true to yourself does not only apply when you are nice or portray other positive characteristics, it is also about embracing your perceived flaws. If you are abrasive…..GOOD FOR YOU! Don’t let people make you feel bad about your assertiveness. If you are a giving person…..embrace it. Just be true to who you are, no matter if it is perceived as a positive or negative characteristic.